Man to Man friendships

http://artofmanliness.com/2008/08/24/the-history-and-nature-of-man-friendships/I am as a person starting to realize what it means to have quality friends because for the first time in my life I have some. For a long time I have based friend ships through a lense of greed and lust. Which people could get me into the best parties and which ones could help me become better at whatever it was I wanted to become more skilled at. And only for that fact. It is the difference in thinking for me at least that in order to have a good life and to survive this world you must learn how to be ruthless and find out how to discover other people that are ruthless. I have walked around this world thinking that other people had the same frame of mind. I assumed that everyone wants to take you. Meaning your money, friends, girls, and your lively hood. Though this may not be far from the truth how you see the world makes all the difference. It enables you to change the way in my mind probability works for you. The way you roll the dice if you will.

I was talking to my girlfriend about it. She is the only solid reason why I have developed this change of heart. Not that one talk did this. Its been due to me watching as things unfold between her and her friends. To be honest I have had no dependable friends, people who would look out for me, in fact they would ditch me at the first site of something better to do. Ditch as in not take me into any consideration and leave with out telling me.

Now I can not blame them for their choices. I can blame myself for my own and choose to make better ones in the future. My desire is to filter friends based off of dependability, adventures, acepting, with the ability to stand up for themselves.

I don't want anymore friends that will use me as a stepping stone, that don't tell me what I can do to help them, that wont help me, or that don't care in general. I think that's what I am subject to as a guy. This site puts the concept of manships into perspective as well as other things to help men be men.